31 Days of Sex

31 Days of Sex

Try one of these superhot sex tips with your man every day this month!

Day 1: Amp Up Your Attitudes

31 days of sex is, well, a lot of sex. So start things off right with a sincere, enthusiastic attitude. Tell your guy how badly you want him and make that your motto for the next month. It's going to be a sexcellent 31 days...!

Day 2: Pillow Position

Stack a pillow or two under your backside the next time your guy is in the missionary position. He'll be able to enter you at a deeper angle and you'll have a better orgasm.

Day 3: Give Him a Peep Show

It's no secret that guys get off on sexy visuals. But teasing him with a personal peep show can be hotter than simply baring it all. So try strutting around in just your bra and panties when you're brushing your teeth, folding the towels, whatever. He won't be able to take his eyes off you.

Day 4: Oral Sex Prep

You might love oral sex exactly how your guy does it, but here's how to make it a little easier on him: Grab two pillows, and place one under his chest and one under your hips. His chin won't dig into the mattress, and he'll have a greater range of motion with your pelvis lifted higher than usual as well.

Day 5: Scintillating Visual

Keep your high heels on while you and your guy do the deed. They'll make your legs look ultra sexy, and give off a couldn't-wait-to-get-it-on vibe.


Day 6: Great Textpectations

In the middle of the day, send your guy a naughty text to get him psyched to see you later. Try something saucy like, "Don't work out too hard tonight...you'll need your energy in the bedroom later!"


Day 7: Stand and Deliver

Getting busy against a wall brings out an intense gotta-have-you-now thrill. It can be tricky though, so try lifting your leg or have him bend his knees a bit. Or if you're petite and he's strong, then just have him pick you up and prop you against the wall.


Day 8: Go Slow-Mo

Try doing the same things you always do in the bedroom, but slow down to one-fourth of your normal speed. You and your guy will have time to really bond, and since you'll be feeling sensation over a longer period of time, both your orgasms will likely be out of this world.

Day 9: Jersey Girl

Clothes can make sex hotter...especially something like a sports jersey of your guy's favorite team. Swipe one out of his dresser drawer or surprise him with a brand-new one of your own. Leave the jersey on, but nothing else.

Day 10: Clean Cutie

Getting it on in the shower is an intimate, sexy experience. If you feel body conscious, then light a couple of candles and flip off the switch. Or just jump into your guy's shower when you know he doesn't have his contacts in yet. Then get all sudsy and steam up the bathroom!

Day 11: Let's Hear It for the Boy
Get so loud tonight that you make the dog bark. seriously just go for it. Wake the neighbors, act like you're trying out for the cheerleading squad, just let loose. You'll be surprised how turned on you and your man get from the vocalization.

Day 12: Dare to Watch a Dirty Movie

From the moment you select a skin flick to watch to the moment when you are both breathless, taking the plunge into porn will add fiery fervor to your real-life bump and grinds. If you're freaked out by the idea of porn, don't be: Your guy is likely going to only spend about 30 seconds watching the movie before he can't take his eyes off your reaction. So be daring and let your inhibitions go tonight!

Day 13: Naughty Note

Spice up today's workday by sending your man an out-of-the-blue e-mail. Tell him how much you desire him and what you'll do to him the minute he comes home. Send the message to his personal account, though, just in case his work vets incoming messages. Then wait for a racy reply...

Day 14: I'll Have the Special

While out to dinner, caress your guy's leg as high as you can get away with. Knowing that you have booty on the brain will whet his appetite even more.

Day 15: Sensual Seduction

Getting a back rub from your guy is a two-for-one deal: He checks out your body while you relax and feel more and more turned on. Don't be surprised when he rolls you over to your back and pounces on you...


Day 16: Have a Quickie

Quickies are always fun because they're so spontaneous, so pick a random place today to get it on. A few of our favorite places for superfast sexcapades: the laundry room, the stairs, and the car.

Day 17: Lusty Lap

While your man is sitting in a chair or on the couch, go for this girl-on-top spot. There are a lot of perks to this sex position: You get to control the speed and tempo because you're on top, he gets a great view of your breasts, and if you lean back a little, there will be even better G-spot stimulation.

Day 18: Happy Trails to You

The area between a guy's belly button and penis is a little-known erogenous zone. Kiss, lick, and tease the area for several minutes to make him hit the roof in desire for you.


Day 19: Set the Scene

You know how sex is always more fun on vacation or in a hotel room? Re-create that luxurious feeling tonight at home. Buy champagne, pull out the special 300-thread-count sheets, and spritz a sexy scent into the air.

Day 20: Love in the Tub

Draw a warm bath tonight and invite your man to join you. Slowly massage his scalp with shampoo and let him get you sudsy. Then enjoy the uninhibited bliss you'll both feel next.


Day 21: Standing Ovation

Instead of letting your guy relax on the couch or lie on the bed while you go down on him, make him stand. Lead him to a nearby wall and coyly tell him he'll need the support later. Because the blood will rush to his penis, the sensation of oral sex will be more intense than usual. We guarantee he'll reach for the wall to keep from his knees from buckling!

Day 22: Create a Where-to-Rendezvous List

Grab your man, a pen, and a piece of paper and brainstorm all the fun places you'd like to have sex. A limo? A tent? An airplane? The sky is the limit! Warning: Making this list will get you two so horny that you'll have to have each other right. this. second.

Day 23: Multiple Rounds

Instead of a sack session that finishes with one happy ending, try to accomplish multiple orgasms. Here's how you do it: After you orgasm, have him (or you) resume touching an area that is not hypersensitive. The stroking in other regions will keep your nerves and sensual energy on high alert, while your nether regions cool off just enough to take the action all over again.

Day 24: Get a Leg Up

In Cosmo's recent guy poll that surveyed more than 30,000 dudes, 42 percent of them said that women don't play up their legs enough. So your mission today: Exfoliate, shave, moisturize, and then ask your guy to give you a calf rub. His hands will likely move north he'll be so turned on!

Day 25: And...Action!

Ready to push the boundaries? Then grab a camcorder (or a digicam with video capabilities) and prop it on a dresser or bookshelf so that it can record you and your man in the heat of the moment. Whether you watch it or not is beside the point — just knowing you're being recorded will bring out your erotic sides. But if you do plan to watch it, here's a hint: Turn the lights down or light some candles before filming. Watching a naughty video that has good lighting is a little too graphic for some.


Day 27: Give Him Some Props

Handcuffing the guy — or being handcuffed yourself — is all about playfully teasing each other. The idea here is to tease him into a frenzy until he begs for mercy. Cutting off some sensations — like his ability to touch you — heightens other experiences, like your touch on his body.

Day 26: Boss Him Around

Try being more erotically expressive than usual tonight. You can clue in your man by praising his sexual performance. For example, compliment him on what he does well, then add a subtle suggestion like, "It turns me on so much when you touch my thighs."

Day 28: Ice, Ice, Baby

Pop a small icecube into your mouth during oral sex. This trick is fantastic if you've been going at it for awhile and need a new sensation to reenergize him.

Day 29: Thrill Every Inch

While you're making out with your man, let your mouth meander over to the side of his neck, right beside his ear. The skin next to the earlobe is probably the most sensitive on his head, so feeling your lips here will make him tingly all over.

Day 30: Sweet Treat

Here's how to make sex even yummier. Blindfold him, and then put a dab of chocolate syrup, honey, or powdered sugar on at least five small spots on your body. Then challenge him to kiss your body until he finds your sweet spots.


Day 31: His Turn!

After weeks of encouraging your sexual prowess, why not give your man a stack of Cosmos and ask him to circle the tricks and tips he finds the most arousing? Then pick one (or heck, 10!) to try tonight.

By Christie Griffin

How to Live a Happy Married Life

1. Respect each other's views at all times.
2. Listen to each other properly.
3. Give priority to your spouse over everything else in your life.
4. Say "I love you" at least once a day to each other.
5. Start your day with a warm kiss.
6. Take time out and spend a few moments together, alone. Maybe you can go out for a walk or a drive.
7. Talk to each other about your thoughts. Doing this daily helps foster communication between partners.
8. Cook for each other, and appreciate the food.
9. Remember that both of you are one soul and two bodies, so don't ever hurt each other.
10. Don't forget to do the little things that make each of you smile and feel loved.
11. Both are made for each other its true love.
12. Respect each other
13. Talk your heart open, this creates a bridge of thoughts and understanding.
14. Never say things in anger intentionally meant to hurt your partner. Verbal hurts are hard to erase and can cause lasting damage to your relationship.
15. Don’t break martial confidences or use them as a weapon during an argument

Sex After 35

SEX AFTER 35

Find out why it's different, why it can be better, and how it can sizzle into your 40's, 50's and beyond.

They married in their 20s, and for years the New York couple had a rich, full sex life. But beginning in his late 30s, the husband no longer eyed his wife with desire. When she hesitantly tried to talk about their sex life, he changed the subject. Sex became almost a nonevent, and their once-strong relationship soured.

As a California couple headed into their 40s, their sex life changed too -- but for the better. True, they no longer frolicked in the bedroom like newlyweds. But both agreed that the sensual side of their marriage had never burned so brightly.

What explains the difference between the two couples? "Knowledge and understanding," says clinical psychologist Sallie Schumacher of Winston-Salem, N.C., former president of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research. "As couples approach the middle years, their bodies, life-styles and sexual responses change."

Both men and women undergo physical, psychological and hormonal changes that are normal, gradual and subtle -- touching all systems of the body, including that most active sex organ, the brain. "Men and women who recognize what's going on, in both themselves and their partners, can make adjustments," Schumacher says, "and can even improve their sex lives."

For women, some of the changes are caused by menopause, which occurs when female hormones decrease, bringing a halt to menstruation. On average, that happens in the early 50s. But the process often begins in the early to mid-40s and spans four or five years. During this perimenopausal period, a woman's vaginal tissues may become thinner, drier and slower to lubricate. She may lose protective fatty tissue in the pubic area while gaining weight elsewhere. Once pleasurable, intercourse may now feel uncomfortable, even painful.

Not understanding these natural physical changes, she may complain that her husband is being too rough and withdraw from sex. Her husband may mistakenly believe she has lost interest in him.

Men go through hormonal changes too. Testosterone, which influences a man's sex drive, reaches its peak between 20 and 30 and gradually decreases thereafter. A French study of 1408 healthy men ages 20 to 60 showed up to a 25-percent decline in testosterone over four decades.

Comparing 77 healthy married men ages 45 to 74, Raul C. Schiavi of the Human Sexuality Program at New York City's Mount Sinai School of Medicine reported that sexual interest, desire and activity declined progressively with a decrease in testosterone readings, although sexual satisfaction did not. Primarily as a result of reduced blood flow, a middle-aged man's erections are not as firm as when he was young.

However, none of these changes should interfere with a full sex life. For example, if a woman has vaginal discomfort, the solution can be as simple as a shift of position during intercourse or use of an inexpensive, over-the-counter water-soluble lubricant. A 40-year-old man's softer erections don't prevent him from reaching orgasm. Says New York City urologist E. Douglas Whitehead, co-director of the Association for Male Dysfunction, "If you rate erections on a scale of zero to ten, an erection of six or seven will be satisfactory for some men and their partners.

" Indeed, experts say the changes themselves can actually enhance the relationship and make for better sex -- if the couple discovers ways to capitalize on them. Here's how to have the best sex after 35:

Reset the pace. "Sex in the young is fast and furious," says Dr. Herant Katchadourian, professor of human biology at Stanford University. "It ignites easily and fizzles out like fireworks." A man in his 20s achieves orgasm within two to five minutes after intercourse begins; his wife may take 20 minutes or more to reach her peak of excitement. "While she's still warming up, it may be all over for him," says marriage, family and child counselor Bernice Itkin of San Francisco.

But as a man ages, the tempo changes from allegro to largo. Because of a normal slowing of blood flow and changes in muscle tone, men in their 40s or 50s require more time to reach a climax, and their orgasms are less forceful.

Now a husband's timing more closely matches his wife's. He may become more in tune with her interest in a slow, sensuous seduction. With this kind of synchronization, it's no coincidence that women respond enthusiastically. According to a 1994 University of Chicago study, women in their 20s are least likely of all age groups to achieve orgasm during intercourse. Women in their early 40s are most likely -- and by a wide margin. By concentrating on how he is increasing his wife's pleasure, a man can increase his pleasure as well.

Take action. "A young man can get an erection at the drop of a hat -- or bra," says Judith Seifer, president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. But after 35, he may be turned on less by what he sees than by his wife's kissing and caressing. The University of Chicago study found that 51 percent of 25- to 29-year-old men became excited when they watched their wives undress. By the mid-40s, the percentage dropped to 40. Once couples learn to pay less attention to what they see and more to what they do, says New York City sex and marital therapist Shirley Zussman, their sex lives improve dramatically.

Balance the seesaw. When they were first married, the man remembered, he always took the sexual lead, pulling his wife close and whispering his desire to make love. But now, 20 years later, she often makes the first move.

Again, hormonal changes are bringing the couple into closer balance. Men and women both produce testosterone and estrogen, but the proportion of each changes over the years. The male's shifting levels of estrogen and testosterone may make him more willing to follow than to lead, happy for his wife to set the pace. And as a woman's estrogen declines and her testosterone becomes proportionately greater, she may become more assertive.

Dare to experiment. As partners become older, more experienced and more trusting of each other, they may become less inhibited in their views of what constitutes satisfying sex. "When we were first married, I couldn't have imagined myself saying 'Touch me there,'" one woman says. "The scenario has changed now, but it's not that we're all that different. It's that our relationship just got deeper."

Says Zussman, "It's a time for new ideas, or a new look at old ideas."She recalls one 40-ish couple seeking to put more zest into their relationship. "Do you ever shower together?" Zussman asked. The two looked at each other. "We used to," the wife said sheepishly. "Try it again," the therapist suggested. They did -- and it worked.

"Intercourse isn't everything," Zussman says. "It's like the old travel slogan: getting there is half the fun."

Achieve more from less. The University of Chicago survey showed that nearly half of 25- to 29-year-olds said they made love at least two or three times a week, including 11 percent reporting four times or more. By the early 40s, the number had fallen to 30 percent. The largest proportion, 45 percent, reported sex "a few times per month" (possibly due, in part, to fatigue and the demands of child-rearing). Yet more than any other group, men and women in their 40s considered themselves emotionally and physically satisfied by their lovemaking.

As the frequency drops, couples should realize that each encounter can become more special, a moment to be anticipated and savored. In a secure relationship, there is less emphasis on how often, and more on how good. "I find that people in their 40s or so remember this moment or that moment, whereas to the younger ones, it may be all a blur," says Zussman. "When it's no longer an everyday thing, it means more."

A gratifying sex life after 35 calls for a series of adjustments. Some people confront them poorly: the 45-year-old male who skitters off after a 21-year-old cocktail waitress, the middle-aged woman who flirts to prove that her allure hasn't faded. But for couples who understand the normal and inevitable changes, and meet them together, sexual pleasure can be greater than ever. Their sex lives will be rich in their 40s, 50s -- and beyond.

By Edwin Kiester, Jr., and Sally Valente Kiester
From Reader's Digest

How To Be A More Sensual Couple

HOW TO BE A MORE SENSUAL COUPLE

According to some of the nation's leading sex experts, the best sex is married sex, as long as it contains the ingredient that many happy husbands and wives secretly share -- sensuality. Sensuality means sharing delight in the five physical senses -- touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste. To the happiest couples, it also means incorporating a critical "sixth sense" -- playfulness. Playfulness can also break the ice in the challenging area of sexual communication. Once you've rediscovered your sense of playfulness, you're ready to explore ways the five physical senses can enhance your pleasure.

TOUCH.
Touch enhances sensuality by stimulating the release of endorphins, the body's mood-elevating chemicals. Caresses can reduce blood pressure and make people feel calmer and happier. The stress-reducing effects of sensual touch can set the stage for fulfilling lovemaking."

SIGHT.
First, try simple eye contact. "You've heard the phrase 'drink to me only with thine eyes'. "Gazing into each other's eyes is very sensual."

HEARING.
Music was the highest-rated aphrodisiac in a study by the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Three-quarters of the couples surveyed said it enhanced the mood for love.

SMELL.
Fragrant aromas can work romantic wonders. Zussman recommends perfumes, cut flowers and scented soaps and candles. She suggests that couples visit bath and body shops together and select the fragrances they both like.

TASTE.
"A jug of wine, a loaf of bread and thou" were all the 11th-century Persian poet Omar Khayyam needed to become amorous. Tickling the taste buds does more than satisfy the appetite for nourishment. It arouses other appetites as well, making what happens after dessert even more delicious.

Once you appreciate the limitless possibilities of monogamous sensuality, it's easy to see why promiscuity is ultimately unsatisfying. Sensuality builds long-term, intimate relationships; affairs do not. Marriage nurtures the trust and deep relaxation sex experts consider crucial to satisfying lovemaking. Even if your marriage has become boring, you can rediscover the sensuality within it. It's there. Nurture it. "If sex is the fire in marriage, then sensuality is the spark that keeps it burning."

By Michael Castleman